Happy New Year! I am a tad late with this month’s post because I am busy scheduling my juniors to work on college planning and I have a draft written about the amazing new opportunity in the SUNY system that I will publish shortly. But for now, here is a piece I wrote a few years back about what college-bound juniors should be doing now:
December is the month when things kick into high gear in the admissions cycle. Some of the most selective schools in the country release their decisions in either an Early Decision round, which is binding, or Early Action, which is not binding. This is an intense week for seniors. Even if they haven’t applied on an early plan, watching their peers can elevate stress and anxiety. Here are some steps to take for each specific outcome:
- First of all, you must remember that college admission decisions are never about the student, they are always about the college and their institutional goals in a given year.
- Give yourself 24-48 hours to feel the disappointment and process the emotions you are going through.
- Review your list and talk to your school counselor to make sure that you have a balanced list for the regular decision round of applications.
- Proof your applications, submit them and confirm that your supporting documents (letters of recommendation, transcripts and test scores) are submitted by monitoring your application portfolio.
- Renew your academic focus and plan to do you best work for the remainder of your senior year.
- A deferral leaves applicants with some hope of admission, but can be disappointing. If you are deferred, give yourself some space to process this decision and take a break before you roll up your sleeves and get back to work.
- Carefully review all of the information from the college to see if there are steps you need to take to continue your candidacy. If there are, follow the directions exactly as directed.
- Review your list of schools for regular decision and make sure it is balanced. Schedule a meeting with your school counselor to review your list and get their input. (School counselors can have important context and insights).
- Determine if there is new information that you want to add to your file. If you have already submitted your application, reach out to the school to ask how you can share these materials.
- If the college will accept a Letter of Continued Interest (LOCI), write a draft and proof it carefully before you send it.
- Work hard on your academics to make sure your midyear grades are the best that they can possibly be.
- Cheer, scream, do whatever you need to celebrate. Feel free to share the news with anyone in your family that is not involved with a senior applying to college. (If you have cousins or other family members that are seniors, wait to share your news with them).
- As you begin to share the news with the general public, be aware that many of your peers might not have received good news-they might have received a denial or a deferral. Be thoughtful and sensitive as to how you decide to share your acceptance(s).
- Let your guidance office know about your acceptances.
- Be sure to send an email to the teachers (and anyone else) that wrote you a letter of recommendation.
- If you were accepted Early Decision, make sure that you pull any applications that you have submitted to other colleges.
- If you have been accepted to any colleges, as a courtesy, let them know you will not be attending.
- Read the information in your acceptance letter to see if there are other steps you need to take in your portal. Some schools will expect you to submit a deposit by a certain date or fill out other paperwork to enroll.
- Keep your grades up and enjoy the rest of your senior year!
It’s that time of year again. December starts the next phase of the admissions cycle. The most selective schools in the country release their first round of Early Decision letters. This is where the rubber meets the road. If you have a senior in high school that you care about, be aware that this month can be quite stressful, even if they did not apply ED.
My first year of counseling seniors, I looked far and wide for some sage advice to temper the pressure and anxiety that I see in school. I could not find what I was looking for so I sat down and wrote what I wanted to say and I have posted it every year since. So if there is a senior in your life that you care about, please share this with them:
“As early application results come in, I have noticed a heightened state among college-bound seniors as they wait for results from the schools where they applied. I searched my archives of articles to find something that might help students take stock and maintain perspective, but none of the articles said what I wanted to say, so here are my two cents: Keep your eye on your own ball. Do not pay attention to the admissions chatter. Think about what you are looking for in a college and what you want your life to look like after the 45 months that you will spend at college. Consider your strengths and weaknesses as a student as well as how you learn best. Continue to explore areas of study and career paths that interest you. Make a list of things you would like to accomplish in college like studying abroad or completing an internship. Explore the websites of ALL the colleges where you are applying and see if anything jumps out at you. College admission is just the beginning. The kids that “win” at the college game (if there even is such a thing) are the students that arrive on campus with a sense of purpose, use their four years well and graduate on time. In precisely five months you will be submitting a deposit to the lucky school that gets to have you for the next four years. Use this time to ponder what you want in a college so that when your choices are on the table, you have a deeper sense of what you want in a school.“
“In some ways, the ticketing process for concerts these days reminds me of the rules surrounding early admissions at selective colleges.”
Taylor Swift tickets go on sale tomorrow so I wanted to post this in honor of her new album and her tour this summer. Jeff Selingo, who wrote the book Who Gets In and Why; A Year Inside College Admissions (which I highly recommend if you haven’t read it) wrote a piece about how getting into college resembles trying to get tickets to Taylor Swift in his newsletter, NEXT. He compares Early Decision to the way that fans have to pre-register for the Ticketmaster lottery. You can read Jeff’s piece here.
If you know a senior applying to college or a fan hoping to get tickets (or both!) good luck to them!
The November 1st is the deadline to submit Early Action or Early Decision applications for many schools and that date is looming for high school seniors. There is so much that goes into preparing an application for submission. Students have to take great care with the activities and honors sections of the Common App, ensure that they have answered all of the college-specific questions, crafted a meaningful personal statement, requested letters of recommendation, completed transcript documents from their high school and determine if they are testing and/or sending their scores to the colleges on their list. In addition to this, applicants may want to write an additional information piece or need to fill out a proprietary application as well as write supplemental essays.
This is a stunning amount of work but once this is finished, there is an entirely new set of tasks an applicant must complete to physically submit an application. This requires another set of detailed steps that need their focus and attention. Here is a step-by-step list of how to tackle this process:
- Review the PDF of the application in the Common App, sign the FERPA waiver, load your credit card information and hit submit.
- Determine if any of the schools on your list require the Self-Reported Academic Record otherwise known as the SSAR/SRAR. This is a platform where students have to load all of their transcript information and then submit this information virtually to the college. You can look here to see the list of schools that require this step.
- Scores-If you are submitting SAT or ACT scores, these are submitted from the ACT or the College Board. The student must log into their respective accounts and send the scores to the colleges on their list.
- Transcripts-Each high school has a protocol for sending transcripts and letters of recommendation. Make sure that your students knows the steps that they needs to take to ensure that their documents are sent in a timely manner.
- Establish and monitor portals-Once an application is received, the college will email the student a link to a portal where they can monitor their file to confirm that their application is complete.
- Go out to dinner and celebrate!
There is a reason that College Applications are the Stuff of Greatness!
“From the bureaucratic minutia to the deep introspection, submitting a college application is possibly the biggest achievement of your kid’s life to date”
Years ago I read The Middle Place, by Kelly Corrigan. It was a funny book and I have enjoyed following her on social media ever since. She recently posted a piece about the fall of senior year in high school. When I read, “Something beautiful is being formed in the dumpster fire that is senior fall…the kind of growth that parents dream of”, I knew I had to write about it.
I have shared her piece below but I want to highlight a few points that she makes because they are spot on. When children are very young, often the answers to the questions in their life are black and white, good and bad, yes and no. You made the travel team? Good! Smoking cigarettes? Very bad! As children progress through adolescence, the answers become more nuanced and less clear: there are pros and cons to all choices. And this hits a crescendo with the college admissions process. Getting into Stanford is amazing but if you live on the East Coast, there might be a tradeoff with the distance. An acceptance at a likely school might be accompanied with a scholarship that is hard to turn down when you look at the cost of a reach school that admitted you. There is no perfect college…but we live in a country with so many choices. To quote Ted Fisk, the author of The Fiske Guide, “The American system of higher education is a real treasure”. (I actually wrote a piece about an interview that I saw with him, “Thoughts From Mr. Fiske [Or calm in the Heart of Application Season])
Kelly Corrigan lists the many attributes that a student gains from going through this process but she ties it up with a bow when she states, “Tell every high school senior you know this most-encouraging truth: making decisions, weighing fiscal demands, understanding yourself, managing a hundred to-dos, overcoming your worst fears-this is the stuff of greatness”. I love this quote because these are the skills that are required to negotiate adult life on a daily basis. I have posted Kelly’s entire piece below. If you know a senior that has applied to college, give them a huge congratulations from me!
BY KELLY CORRIGAN
In the early days of her senior fall, my daughter was projecting confidence about the college application process. She’d make a spreadsheet, things would be checked off, it’ll all come together, Mom. But right around this point, with classes and sports in full swing, college mutated from something exciting to that-which-shall-not-be-named. To inquire about, say, a 150-word supplemental essay was to provoke a fit of unholy madness.
What I couldn’t have known then is this: Something beautiful is being formed in the dumpster fire that is senior fall. Regardless of outcome, the college application process itself can force the kind of growth parents dream of. Here’s why:
Making decisions is hard.
Imagine a heap of flea market jewelry where each piece is tangled in some way around another. SAT or ACT? When to take it and how many times? City school or the rolling hills of some rural outpost? Greek, Greek-lite or anti-Greek? Early action or early decision? Our kids decide. Ahh. But then a cool older cousin or trusted teacher points out a new wrinkle and they undecide. They scour College Confidential and rogue Facebook pages looking for some bit of truth they can trust. Decision fatigue is real. How many of us have the patience to separate each chain, bracelet and granny brooch?
Needing a lot of money is stressful.
Your kid is about to be the central figure in a shockingly expensive venture — with little visibility into what your family can bear. What percentage of your family’s savings is at stake? What kind of support did or will his siblings need? What are the chances of getting need-based financial aid or a merit scholarship? Is it O.K. to want a private education or is that greedy and unnecessary? And the doozy of all doozies: Is it always worth it? (Listen to Kelly Corrigan Wonders podcast to hear more on this question.)
Self-reflection is a mind-bender.
What are you good at? What was meaningful about your summer experiences? What should the admissions committee know about you? If this doesn’t seem all that dreadful, ask yourself the same questions. Are you shrugging? Grimacing like that toothy emoji? Recently when a friend of my daughter’s asked for help with an essay, I was tempted to suggest he write: “I don’t know anything; that’s why I need to go to college.”
Project managers are made, not born.
Humans are built for many things, but most of us live and die without learning to pilot a process this complex. Just how many items are on the average college application checklist? Let’s see: transcripts, recommendations, biographical info, resume, personal statement, supplemental essays, standardized tests, application fees. Next up, the harrowing process of securing financial aid. What happens if you leave a field blank? Will you ever know? Which brings me to the cloud of anxiety surrounding the whole thing.
College fear is based on a lie.
The lie is about consequences. The lie says this is a binary moment: You’re off to greatness or you’re doomed. The lie says there is no other way to get the life you want than by going to University of Stretch Dream Reach. That’s why they want it so bad.
But in all cases, for as long as we live, it is damn near impossible to know in advance if getting what we want is a good thing or a bad thing. Look at divorce rates. Or job satisfaction ratings. Some people are miserable and uninspired on every campus in America, even those dreamy dream schools, and plenty of people are thriving at schools with acceptance rates near 100 percent. (And here’s a bit of news: the majority of colleges in the United States accept most applicants.)
You couldn’t have convinced me of this in April 1985. I sobbed in my parents’ driveway, a rejection letter dangling from each hand. Four months later, I limped off to the only college that accepted me, and I love my life.
From the bureaucratic minutia to the deep introspection, submitting a college application is possibly the biggest achievement of your kid’s life to date — assuming you are letting them lead. And I’m here to say you should. Of course, executive function varies, and with it, so do the roles parents play. Are you one of the lucky who need only to be available for spot consultations? Or do you feel sure that if you don’t keep the reins tight, your child will grow old at your kitchen table, eating Oodles of Noodles in his underwear?
Deciding where you belong in the process has a lot to do with how you answer these questions: What will happen if you let them lead, and what will happen if you don’t? Another worthwhile thought experiment goes like this: If we decide they’ll find their way one way or another, if we agree that any one acceptance letter is not the prize, what could the reward be? Developing comfort with uncertainty? Expanding self-knowledge? Building new capacities and a sense of agency? Because that kind of personal growth is not too much to ask of this process. And what a grand outcome that would be.
Be warned, when you try to celebrate the litany of achievements a completed application represents, your kid will say the horrible thing they all believe: “None of it matters if I don’t get in.” Celebrate anyway. Leave a card on his pillow. Make a toast. Take her for fro-yo. Tell every high school senior you know this most-encouraging truth: making decisions, weighing fiscal demands, understanding yourself, managing a hundred to-dos, overcoming your worst fears — this is the stuff of greatness. This is, in fact, exactly the way to get the life you want. So, someone, please make the bumper sticker: MY KID APPLIED TO COLLEGE.
“For an overachieving high schooler who wanted what the upper echelon of colleges promised, nothing seemed to be a valid hobby or interest unless you somehow turned it into a nonprofit, a start-up, or an international award.”
Yejin Suh, Princeton University Class of 2025
Greetings from the heart of the application season! I am sharing two pieces this month written by college students and their thoughts on selective college admissions. One of them is an opinion piece The New York Times, titled “There is Still One Big Trick for Getting Into an Elite College”, written by a junior at Stanford. The other was written by a sophomore at Princeton University and published in the Daily Princetonian, titled “3.98 Percent a Year Later: Reflecting on the Rat Race of College Admissions”
Both students express concerns about the college admissions process and the impact on students in America. What do you think?
Greetings! I am deep in the heart of application season, so my September post is behind schedule. I have one public service announcement on behalf of colleges and college applicants: there is no WE in college admissions!
Here are some things that I have overheard well-meaning parents say:
“We were hoping to get a 1400 on the SAT.”
“We have finished our applications.”
“We are applying Early Decision to _______________________.” (insert name of college here)
“We are scoring in the 1300s on the practice SAT.”
“We are almost done with the essay.”
“We are not sending scores.”
We all love our children and want the best for them. However, if you have a senior in high school, at this point in time, they are less than eight months away from submitting a deposit and you are about eleven months away from leaving them on a college campus. It is time to step away and allow the student to own the process.
A good analogy for this is to think about a competitive swimmer. Parents that attend a meet are in the stands. They are not in the pool with their child as they swim in a race. And this is how to think about this process. One has to psychologically get out of the pool and go sit in the bleachers as their child negotiates this passage. That is hard! But the cold reality is that the more you step away now and let your child own their college admission journey, the more likely they are to arrive on a campus, prepared to engage, excel academically and thrive socially.
So I know, it is hard to step back. I encourage families to start by changing their verbiage and dropping the “we”. In the end “we” are not going to college, just your child is.
PS If you want some thoughts on how to handle friends and acquaintances that ask about your child’s college plans, read my post “Don’t Fall In Love”.
I am deep in the heart of essay writing season. My rising seniors focused on their main essay the first half of the summer. Now we are immersed in writing supplemental essays for the colleges that require them. Some of my students are writing fifteen or more, some only have a handful. It just depends on their list.
As we approach this phase of applications, I am always amazed at the variety of questions colleges ask. Some are straightforward, like “Why do you want to attend our school?” or “Why do you want to major in the field you have selected?” But others are far more complex. There is a college that asks two big questions in their prompt: “Why are you interested in XXX University and how do you see yourself contributing to a diverse, inclusive, accessible and respectful campus?” And they want you to answer these two complex questions in a total of 250 words, not easy!
Some colleges give you a choice of two or more essays and allow you to select the one that you would like to answer. Other schools have multiple essays prompts for applicants to answer. There is a public flagship that asks a series of questions that you have to answer in 300 characters or less, basically two tweets!
My favorite essay prompts are from the Virginia Polytechnic University, fondly known as Virginia Tech. I love these prompts for two reasons. First, they are brief, 120 words each! Second, they are so original and they really allow students to share something about themselves. Whenever I have a student writing to these prompts, their answers are revealing and I learn something new about them. So here they are, go Hokies!
- Virginia Tech’s motto is “Ut Prosim” which means ‘That I May Serve’. Share how you contribute to a community that is important to you. How long have you been involved? What have you learned and how would you like to share that with others at Virginia Tech?
- Resilience is defined as the ability to adapt and learn from a difficulty. Reflect on a time that you have exhibited resilience. What growth did you see in yourself after this experience?
- Share a time when you were most proud of yourself either as a role model or when you displayed your leadership. What specific skills did you contribute to the experience? How did others rely on you for guidance? What did you learn about yourself during this time?
- Describe a goal that you have set and the steps you will take to achieve it. What made you set this goal for yourself? What is your timeline to achieve this goal? Who do you seek encouragement or guidance from as you work on this goal?
“The supplement is a chance to expand one’s candidacy, to reveal one’s personality, and to prove one’s interest. If the essay was the heart of the application, the supplement was it’s soul”
Becky Munsterer Sabky
~Valedictorians at the Gate
Today is a big day in the college admissions world. The Common App reopens for the 2023 admissions cycle. Students can see which colleges on their list will require supplemental essays and get started on them. They can return to school next month with their applications complete so they can focus on their senior year, getting the best grades in the most rigorous classes in their high school career and enjoying their last year at home. If you know a senior that needs to tackle the next stage of writing, here are a few things to keep in mind:
- The length can vary. I have seen questions that require an answer the length of a tweet. Others can be 500-1,000 words. Typically they are 150-250.
2. These pieces are usually shorter than the main essay, but they need to be polished. The supplemental essays should receive the same level of care and effort as the main essay.
3. You might see prompts that you can use more than once. Two examples that I often see are “Tell us about a meaningful extracurricular that you enjoy” or “Tell us why you want to study and why”.
4. Another typical supplement that colleges use is the “Why Us?” essay. In order to write this effectively, you need to craft a detailed piece with specific information that draws you to the college.
5. The supplement is an opportunity to show another facet of yourself that is not already a part of your application.
6. Colleges use this portion of the application to allow students to share their voice, more of their personality and their interest in a school.
If you know a rising senior, encourage them to get started sooner rather than later. As I tell the kids that I work with, “You can pay now or you can pay later, but you are going to pay.” Good luck!